Which person were you during your last conflict at work?
When faced with stressors and major life disruptions, Connor and Davidson (2003) argue that people respond in one of those four ways:​​​
A person
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that remained in a state of dysfunction, where maladaptive coping strategies or self-destructive behaviors were developed.
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A person
that recovered but still experienced a degree of internal disruption.
B
A person
that overcame the disruption and has returned to a state of balance.
C
A person
that used the failure or disruption as an opportunity for growth and resilience.
D
Executives, managers and professionals who have purposefully worked on their mindset, resiliency skills and wellbeing habits have learned how to model authentic leadership by using disruptive events as an opportunity to grow.
Employers expect a high level of productivity from their team, especially executives and managers.
They want you to keep delivering while being unaffected by difficult personality profiles, unfair decisions, sudden change, setbacks, personal problems, and so on. The pressure is real. So is burnout, anxiety and depression.
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Your employees need to be in touch with another human being to step back, reflect with humility, exchange with honesty, and find meaning in what they're experiencing.
When this fellow human being is an outsider, people tend to feel safer to open up, challenge themselves and find personalized strategies, without the urge of maintaining a strong image of being unbreakable and on top of it all.
What is a Resilient Mindset?
A Resilient Mindset is practiced when you intentionally set your mind and focus on the learning aspect of an adverse situation while maintaining a feeling of ease and wholeness throughout the process.
​​​​​Resilience could be explained as a state of being that welcomes, accepts and transmutes adversity into a learning process. Resilience makes you gain new personal insights and healthy coping strategies in three different areas: body resilience, emotional resilience and mental resilience.
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Mindset is a constant practice on how to “set the mind” in order to consciously engage in a coherent direction and achieve something desired. It's an ongoing process (more like a never ending process to be honest) that is linked to your core values, life principles and beliefs, and requires continuous adjustments.​​​
How do you show up for yourself when you're being challenged?
Which coping strategies work best for you?
Is your body resilient?
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What has kept you going through tough times in the past?
What thoughts are helpful to soothe yourself?
Do you know what makes you feel hopeful?
What could you do differently to overcome your limitations?
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What healthy habit keeps your mind off of current problems?​
Vulnerability sounds like
"Honestly, I'm done. I don't care anymore. I'm done trying. I'm done investing my everything and get nothing in return. "
Vulnerability feels like
"Wow, I'm that high in the hierarchy and I still don't know how to deal with this? What's wrong with me? I'm hopeless. "
Vulnerability looks like
" I should have known better. I can't let my emotions cloud my judgment. People count on me. I have to stop feeling so deeply.
Resilience sounds like
"Yes, this situation is hard. But I've been through hard situations before. I'll get through this one as well. Let's go! "
Resilience feels like
"I don't know all the steps to deal with this, but I will learn them one by one. I can do this. I'm capable of doing new things. "
Resilience looks like
" I'm making the best decision I can with the information available at this very moment. I can trust that I'm doing my best. "